I
just don’t understand it. Nice guys like myself, we’re nice, not too hideous,
yet get denied by society by each girl and person because we are a little nerdy
and like to play online games and listen to heavy metal or electronic music.
Why is it that it seems today’s women prefer to date boys that have “swag”,
wear incorrectly sized clothing, do all sorts of drugs, drop out of school,
don’t contribute to society, and wish police to be fucked? I don’t freaking
understand it. I’m 19 years old and have never had a real girlfriend. Granted I
like computers a lot, I still get out and try to do things. Heck, I’ve already
studied in another country for my undergrad and I’m only a freshman. What is it
that we nice guys are doing wrong? Does the title “video game player” make us
an automatic friend zoned person?
Now
onto the men: It’s ok to date a girl for her personality! There are many girls
out there that are not 10s. I revealed to a friend of mine who is slightly
“swagin’” a girl that I liked a while ago. I thought she was absolutely
amazing, yet said friend said “Fuck that shit.” The men who only date for looks
and sex and not a good hearted relationship give all of us men a bad name!
I
just wanted to get upon a soapbox for a minute and say that. I don’t understand
what I’m doing wrong in the ways of women, and I don’t know why most of my
gender can’t just date a girl for her personality for once.
The "bad boy" image has been around for awhile. Why many find itappealing, I myself don't understand. It goes back to James Dean and maybe even before then. While not a girl myself, I understand at least a little by what you mean.
ReplyDeleteAs for online game: I feel that while online games and video games can be fun, it also seems to build a wall between reality and the video game 'world'. It's easy to plug into a computer and talk to someone that way because some people do not have the social skills to talk face-to-face with a 'real' person. By playing online games it makes it harder to establish real worldly connections with people. While it may feel like there is a connection there (interest in the same game, zum Beispiel), I feel like video games make it harder for a person to really step outside the 'box' of that world and be able to establish real positive human connections with the people and world around them. Ofg course there are exceptions to everything, and I am not saying at all that you, Alex, cannot do that, but I think video games can hinder one's ability to try and connect with people on a human level, rather than on a virtual level. Meiner Meinung dazu. :)
Read this and thought you might like a woman to weigh in:
ReplyDeleteBad Boys... Alright Marcus maybe I can help out a little. As a girl, one who has dated a bad boy or two in her time, let me first say that we go through a stage of wanting to piss off our parents and it is exciting to "live on the wild side" for a bit and say, fuck you society. I promise though, the smart girls, the ones who are worth your effort, grow out of that phase because eventually taking care of hungover assholes every morning gets old. We are not your mothers, we figure that out eventually.
About geeks... geeks and nerds are fucking awesome. Maybe it's just me, I dunno, but I fall for computer geeks, it's my type. There is a fine line though, between the intelligently appealing computer guy and the obsessive gamer. If a girl thinks your computer Spiele are more important than her, it's over before it ever began. It's like too much of anything is a bad thing. Keep the geek-level in check and you're golden.
And last but never least.. sex. Well guess what, while a relationship should be largely about personality and intellect compatibility, the physical attraction also has to be there. For many a crazy college freshman with new found freedom, this means sex sex sex.. but there is good news.. eventually these sex-crazed idiots will grow up too and learn to love a girl for more than just her body.. and if they don't, well they will get stuck with those who have little self esteem and you know what that means? More self-respecting, intelligent ladies left over for you to choose from.
Thank you for replying/reading guys. While I can (and have since I've been home) play League of Legends for 4-6 hours straight, I do put real life first. If I'm bored, I'll see what friends are doing, but if they're busy I just go to games. My real life friends are the ones I usually game with online too. However, games can certainly get out of hand, which is why I had to quit playing World of Warcraft.
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